Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Have you ever lost your temper?


Did you yell and scream or want to hit someone? 
Or maybe your boss gave you too much workload Or maybe a friend borrowed kind or money from you and then denying to return it. That made you angry! 
Everyone gets angry. Maybe you "lose your cool" or "hit the roof." Anger can even be a good thing. When kids are treated unfairly, anger can help them stand up for themselves. The hard part is learning what to do with these strong feelings. 

What Is Anger? 


You have lots of emotions. At different times, you may be happy, sad, or jealous. Anger is just another way we feel. It's perfectly OK to be angry at times — in fact, it's important to get angry sometimes.But anger must be released in the right way. Otherwise you'll be like a pot of boiling water with the lid left on. If the steam doesn't escape, the water will finally boil over and blow its top! When that happens to you, it's no fun for anyone. 

What Makes You Angry? 

Many things may make you angry. You may get angry when something doesn't go your way. Maybe you get mad at yourself when you don't understand your worload or when your team loses an important project. When you have a hard time reaching a goal you might become frustrated. That frustration can lead to anger. For an instance, you might get angry with your parents if you think one of their rules is unfair. Worst of all is when you are blamed for something you didn't do. But it's also possible to get angry and not even know why. 

Here are 12 of the most common kinds of anger. See if you recognize any of them :- 

• Behavioral Anger – This type of anger usually describes someone who is aggressive towards whatever triggered their anger… this can be another person. This can be someone who always seems to act out, or is troublesome. Sometimes the outcome is physical abuse or attacks against others. 
• Passive Anger - People who use sarcasm or mockery as a way to hide their feelings, typically express this form of anger. They tend to avoid confrontations with people or situations.
• Verbal Anger – Anger that’s expressed mostly through words and not actions. Verbal abuse is used to criticize and insult people (put them down) and complain. 
• Constructive Anger – This type of anger is a key factor in driving people to want to join movements and groups. It’s the feeling of being fed up with how things are going, and the need to make a positive change. 
• Self-inflicted Anger – Anger that translates in causing harm to one’s own body. People who use this type of anger are acting out by punishing themselves for something they’ve done wrong. Some examples include starvation, cutting, and overeating. 
• Volatile Anger – This form of anger occurs in varying degrees… it comes and goes. It can just appear out of nowhere, or build into something bigger. It can either explode or go unnoticed. It could even be expressed verbally or physically. 
• Chronic Anger – Ever come across someone that’s seemingly angry for no reason, or mad all the time? More than likely, they were exhibiting this type of anger. People with chronic anger are just mad in general. 
• Judgmental Anger – Putting other people down and making them feel bad about themselves, or abilities, is a form of judgmental anger. This person expresses their feelings by making those around them feel worthless. 
• Overwhelmed Anger – This person relieves stress by shouting, and flying off the handle, when they can’t take situations and things that are happening around them, anymore. When things are just too overwhelming… which is why it’s called ‘overwhelmed anger’. 
• Retaliatory Anger – This is probably one of the most common, of the bunch. Retaliatory anger usually occurs as a direct response to someone else lashing out at you… has that happened to you once or twice ? 
• Paranoid Anger – This anger comes about when someone feels jealousy towards others, because they feel other people have or want to take what’s rightfully theirs. Or they may act out because they feel intimidated by others. 
• Deliberate Anger – Using anger to gain power over a situation or person. A person expressing this form of anger may not start out angry, but will get angry when something does not turn out the way they wanted. Or, someone doesn’t see eye to eye with something they planned. 
The next step is knowing what to do when anger rears its ugly head. 

How Can I Tell When I'm Angry? 

There are different ways people feel anger. Usually your body will tell you when you are angry. Are you breathing faster? Is your face bright red? Are your muscles tense and your fists clenched tight? Do you want to break something or hit someone? Anger can make you yell or scream at those around you, even people you like or love. 
Some people keep their anger buried deep inside. If you do this, you might get a headache or your stomach might start to hurt. You may just feel crummy about yourself or start to cry. It's not good to hide your anger, so you should find a way to let it out without hurting yourself or others. 

How Can I Tell When Someone Else Is Angry? 


When someone you know is angry, he or she may stomp away or stop talking to you, or become quiet and withdrawn. Some people scream and try to hit or harm anyone close by. If a person is this angry, you should get away as soon as possible. 
Once you are away from the angry person, stop and think. Try to figure out what made that person so angry. Can you make the situation better? How does the other person feel? When the other person has cooled down, try to talk about the problem. Listen to what he or she has to say. 

What Should I Do If I Get Angry? 

Don't lose control if you get angry. Taking it out on others never solves anything. Instead, admit to yourself that you are angry and try to figure out why. What can you do to keep the situation from happening again? If your little sister gets a toy and you don't, it's not OK to break that toy. Maybe you can ask her to share it with you. Ask your boss or a parent for help instead. 
It helps to talk about your anger with an adult, such as a parent, teacher, or relative. Once you talk about anger, those bad feelings usually start to go away. 

Anger Busters 

Here are some other things you can do when you start to feel angry: 

• talk to a friend you can trust 
• count to 10 
• get or give a hug 
• do jumping jacks or another exercise 
• draw a picture of your anger 
• play a video game 
• run around the outside of the house five times as fast as you can 
• sing along with the stereo 
• pull weeds in the garden 
• think good thoughts (maybe about a fun vacation or your favorite sport) 
• take a bike ride, go skateboarding, play basketball — do something active! 



Regards,
 

Shikha Datta | Marketing Co-ordinator
 

Do not value the things you have in your life. But value who you have in your life

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face.

The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand “Today my best friend slapped me in the face”.

They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone “Today my best friend saved my life”.

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, “After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?” The other friend replied “When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.”




Moral: Do not value the things you have in your life. But value who you have in your life.


Shikha

Friday, December 10, 2010


Sunday, November 28, 2010

A positive outlook can help you







Positive Thinking
Positive thinking is a mental attitude that anticipates happiness, success and favorable outcomes in every situation or action you do. The thoughts get registered in your subconscious mind and you start taking action to create favorable change. 

A positive outlook can help you to cope better with stressful situations and can change your life for the better.


Why think positively? 
Ever wondered why some people find learning an enjoyable and exciting experience? Why are some people disinterested and find it an unpleasant experience while others use it merely as a road to fetch a good job? The difference between these people lies in their attitude and their approach towards life. Your mindset plays a huge role in every aspect of your life. 
Your mind can control your body for better or for worse. A negativemindset can mar your life while a positive mindset can make your lifehappy and peaceful. The choice is yours!

Ways to develop positive thinking 
You cannot change your thoughts and attitude over night. Positive thinking takes practice. 

Persistence would make your mind to think positively and ignore negative thoughts. 

Benefits of positive thinkingDecreases stress.Helps you cope better in stressful situations.Strengthens your Immune System and reduces the risk of certain diseases. Improves your self-esteem and confidence.Brings inner peace, happiness and a sense of well-being.Motivates you to accomplish your goals.Helps you have greater inner strength and energy.Helps you live longer.
Listen to your inner voice
 
Listening to your inner voice or instincts is one of the most common ways to develop positive thinking. Whenever any negative thoughts enter your mind, try to replace it with a constructive one. For example, “I won’t be able to do it” will be put forward as “I will do it”. Practice this regularly and you will soon be able to master your mind. 

Learn to meditate 
Meditation calms your mind and relaxes your body Meditation gives you inner strength, peace of mind, relaxation and a sense of bliss, which will help you to think positively.


Always see the brighter side of life 
Try to believe that everything happens for a reason and embrace the concept that something good will come out of every situation that momentarily seems bad. Always look on the bright side of life and it will work wonders for you. 

Learn to communicate effectively 
Not saying the things you feel can give a sense of frustration, anxiety and anger, thus giving way to negative thoughts. Hence, communication is an important aspect of positive thinking.
Believe in yourself 
Believe in yourself and your capabilities to become more confident. Make a positive commitment to your self and to the people around you. Praise yourself and be enthusiastic.

Tips to positive thinking
  • Be optimistic and expect favorable outcomes in every situation.
  • Cultivate the habit of reading inspiring books.
  • Find reasons to smile more often. It’s a great stress buster.
  • Try to use positive words, e.g. “I can”, “it will be done”, “it is possible” while thinking and talking.
  • Engage yourself in enjoyable recreational activities.
  • Interact with people who have a positive outlook in life.
Finally… 
Positive thinking needs consistent effort as you are creating a new habit. On the other hand, negative thoughts can rip your focus from your goal. There is no greater joy than living a healthy and positive life. So take charge of your mind and think positive. Remember, you are what you think.



Sometimes the day comes when nobody understands you





Sometimes the day comes
when you try your level best
to achieve something
but you fail

Sometimes the day comes
when nobody understands you
and you feel that you are isolated
from the world

Sometimes the day comes
when you want to help the needy
but find yourself unable to
because of some reasons

Sometimes the day comes
when you are hungry and have a few bucks
but you see the child laborers and buy food for them

Sometimes the day comes
when Mom comes up with one answer
and Father with another
and you have to make your own decision

Sometimes the day comes
when you see that some people ditch others
because of their selfishness

Sometimes the day comes
when you want to tell something to your parents
but find yourself unable to because
you think that they might get hurt or misunderstand you

Sometimes the day comes
when your friends drift apart
not because you were not able to understand them
but because they were not able to understand you

Sometimes the day comes
when you want to smile
but can't find a place to even weep

Sometimes the day comes
when your beloved can't understand your feelings
and leaves you alone
and you look down and feel ashamed or embarrassed

But sometimes the day comes
when you learn from all your failure and think
"Those who dare to fail greatly can achieve greatly."

Don't look down, look up.

You are one of the persons to whom GOD is closest
and He loves you.